When Helping Hurts, and Ho'oponopono Sets Me Straight

An A ncient Chinese Fable "A monkey and a fish were caught in a terrible flood and were being swept downsteam amidst torrents of water and debris. The monkey spied a branch from an overhanging tree, and pulled himself to safety from the swirling water. Then, wanting to help his friend the fish, he reached into the water and pulled the fish from the water onto the branch. The moral of the story is clear: Good intentions are not enough. If you want to help the fish, you must understand its nature." Many of us struggle with urges to "help" our family, friends, and others. If we work in healthcare, this is part of our everyday life. We think we're doing what's best for others. It's not that altruism is inherently wrong, but it can be confused with so many other things. Also, like the Chinese fable above, our conscious minds are clueless about the others' true natures. We interpret these according to our own skewed perceptions, rather than as they are. ...