It's a very good question, since the person was wondering whether this would be establishing a relationship under false or exploitative pretenses -- just to get the Inner Child to "do" something for us.
In Ho'oponopono, the Inner Child is the part of us containing all the unconscious memories which can surface as problems like illness, miscommunication, money issues, relationship discord, etc. The Inner Child also runs our bodies -- and needs care from the mothering part of us, the Uhane.
If we don't clean, our Inner Child continues to suffer. If we choose to clean (as our Uhane can start the process by saying "I love you") it can let the painful memories go.
In Ho'oponopono training seminars, we're shown specific processes to connect with our Inner Child -- not just to "use" it, but to authentically love it. Many of us may not have experienced this kind of love in our lives, so it takes some practice.
But through the methods Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len and other wonderful Self-Identity Through Ho'oponopono teachers share, it can be done. It does require daily practice, though. Once you realize this part of you has been abused and neglected throughout time, you develop an attitude of care and compassion towards it -- genuine love.
As a doctor, I think this models good self-care, too. There are processes for preparing the Child to go out into the world, for stocking a bag of supplies he/she may need, helping him/her to feel safe, giving gentle affection, and more. This is very different from running mindlessly through life, not considering what we may need as simple humans.
Through our behavior and choices in each moment, we're showing our Inner Child how we approach life and its events: through cleaning, rather than getting embroiled and inflamed in them. All that stuff comes from memories or data we hold inside anyway. Best to ask Divinity's help in transmuting and letting them go! Eventually, the Child learns from us, and wants to do this too. It pleasures in joining in.
And interesting things happen, when we relate this way.
Yesterday, I was sitting in a seminar in Phoenix, with ~100 other people. Things were going along, but were not finished. Inside I began to feel uncomfortable, not sure why. The speaker was engaging, energetic, and entertaining. I tried to listen, but my inner discomfort intensified.
Finally, I picked up my things and quietly left the room -- went straight to my car and drove home. No questions, no discussion, no confusion.
As I rode down the freeway, my car radio blasted a warning: a gigantic dust storm with 60 mph winds was on its way! I looked in my rear view mirror, and could see it mushrooming behind me. By leaving early, I had escaped having to drive through it. Just barely.
Dr. Hew Len has often said that when you're clear, you "just do it" -- no questions. If you're still asking, you're not! I laughed, thinking of how many times he's told me that . . . . and how many times I've continued to question that answer. I'm sure my confusion has tested his patience. :-)
I can't prove it, but I believe cleaning with my Unihipili let it tell me when to GO, even though my conscious mind didn't understand why. It wasn't logical to miss the rest of a seminar I'd paid for. But that's what happened.
I surely do say thank you, many times a day. I bought some blueberries today, as a special tool to say "Thank You" in another way. (For those who may not know, blueberries are another Ho'oponopono cleaning tool. Cleaning by eating them can escape the conscious mind and its questioning. Very simple.)
Dr. Hew Len says the relationship with our Unihipili is the most important relationship we'll ever have. I believe he's right. Thank you, Dr. Hew Len.
Peace begins with me,